A wise man once said:
Today is the first day of the rest of your life!
Yet how many people realize this and yet do nothing about it?
The rest of your life
Are you one of the many who understand the truth of this saying, but ignore it? Even though you may have chosen how you want the rest of your life to be, are you changing what you need to change?
This quotation blew me away when I first saw it some thirty years ago. I remember thinking there's a vital message for me here! Yet if I had made no changes, it was still just as valid. What does it mean?
This quotation blew me away when I first saw it some thirty years ago. I remember thinking there's a vital message for me here! Yet if I had made no changes, it was still just as valid. What does it mean?
As a brand-new personal growth student, it told me how to get more out of life - become more effective. Create your life strategy! It said that effectiveness is the key to achievement - and to getting less of what you don’t want. It still means the same today.
Why continue doing the same old stuff when you know it's not working that well for you? If you're not entirely happy with where you're at, are you listening to the message? Your life is giving you valuable feedback - what you're doing is not working that well for you! Let's explore why...
Why continue doing the same old stuff when you know it's not working that well for you? If you're not entirely happy with where you're at, are you listening to the message? Your life is giving you valuable feedback - what you're doing is not working that well for you! Let's explore why...
The Wolves
The black wolf's job is self-sabotage. So it rationalizes anything it wants you to do as right and justifies the unsatisfactory outcomes. But although part of your reality, unsatisfactory results are er... unsatisfactory! And when you ignore reality, no matter how seemingly justified, you are sabotaging yourself.
It tries to stop you thinking things through rationally, and to manipulate your emotions to persuade you to follow its path. So it pretends reliability is unimportant and manipulating the truth doesn't matter. Yet whenever you disregard truth, any choices you make cannot help but be less reliable. The decisions you make about your future will be more effective when you are not deceived about your current circumstances!
We all have a self-sabotage mechanism. That means you as well as everybody in your life (including me). But learning to reduce your self-sabotage is way more fulfilling than trying to fix other people. Rather than complaining "they" are not doing it right, look in the mirror and see how you can do better.
How can you do it better? Simple - become more effective! Which means learning to overcome the self-sabotage mechanism, the black wolf.
The White Wolf
But remember one thing when you choose which wolf to follow. All actions have consequences and some consequences are more arduous than others. And some are more desirable! No, you're not mad when you find you talking, or even arguing with yourself!
Neither wolf is wrong, they are both just part of the way you are. But if you want your life to work better, then you need to listen more to the white wolf and less to the black one! Both are necessary - as they say:
It takes the bitter and the sweet
to make life complete!
How much do you self-sabotage? What percent of your time do you listen to the black wolf? And the white wolf? Write down the very first answers you come up with, because the black wolf will try and change them in its favor! Your answers probably suggest you need to take some action!
Why life repeats itself
If you find that a situation in life repeats itself, comes round again, this suggests you haven't let it go yet. Perhaps you don't fully accept it, you don't know it from every angle. Do you insist on rejecting the circumstances caused by your self-sabotage, but haven't yet learned to follow the white wolf?
The good news is that you don't have to let the black wolf run your life. When you know and fully accept the difficult and onerous situations that it creates, then you don't have to experience the self-sabotaging for yourself. This is both simple and possible, although definitely not easy. Yet it is the most effective way to approach life.
So Life Strategies focuses on effectiveness. [Aside: this site uses American spelling, so please let me know if you see any errors, I too make mistakes! :-)] The ReduceStressNow.net site applies these strategies to the common issue of how to reduce stress. To a very large extent, becoming more effective at anything means learning how to overcome the self-sabotage mechanism, the black wolf.
The good news is that you don't have to let the black wolf run your life. When you know and fully accept the difficult and onerous situations that it creates, then you don't have to experience the self-sabotaging for yourself. This is both simple and possible, although definitely not easy. Yet it is the most effective way to approach life.
So Life Strategies focuses on effectiveness. [Aside: this site uses American spelling, so please let me know if you see any errors, I too make mistakes! :-)] The ReduceStressNow.net site applies these strategies to the common issue of how to reduce stress. To a very large extent, becoming more effective at anything means learning how to overcome the self-sabotage mechanism, the black wolf.
Your Next Step
Some believe they know all this. But if what you know is not bringing you the results you desire then you do NOT authentically know this. You can't fool the universe, the proof of validity lies in your current circumstances.Self sabotage has a major effect on everybody's life. It's easily seen in other people, but very difficult to see your own. But you can see its results! You end up in undesirable situations and it's difficult to enjoy circumstances you do want. So bookmark this site - it costs nothing to keep exploring...
If you want to start out slowly, then What You Resist, Persists is for you. This dynamic Special Report introduces the concepts needed to overcome self-sabotage and its exercises enable you to start developing the necessary skills.
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Self-Sabotage? What it is, Why we do it, When we do it, How to Overcome It!
Food for Thought
"It's easier to go down a hill than up,
but the view is much better at the top."
Arnold Bennett (1867 – 1931), editor, philanthropist, novelist,
author of: "How to Live on 24 Hours a Day"