A wise man once said:
Today is the first day of the rest of your life!
Yet how many people ignore this and do nothing about it?
The rest of your life
Are you one of the many who understand the truth of this saying, but ignore it? Even though you may have chosen how you want the rest of your life to be, what are you doing about it?
This quotation blew me away when I first saw it some thirty years ago. I remember thinking there's a vital message for me here! Yet if I had made no changes, it was still just as valid. What does it mean?
As a brand-new personal growth student, it told me how to get more out of life - to become more effective. It said that effectiveness is the key to achievement - and to getting less of what you don’t want. It still means the same to me today.
Why continue doing the same old stuff when you know it's not working that well? If you're not entirely happy with where you're at, are you listening to its message? Your life is giving you valuable feedback - what you're doing is not that effective!
This quotation blew me away when I first saw it some thirty years ago. I remember thinking there's a vital message for me here! Yet if I had made no changes, it was still just as valid. What does it mean?
As a brand-new personal growth student, it told me how to get more out of life - to become more effective. It said that effectiveness is the key to achievement - and to getting less of what you don’t want. It still means the same to me today.
Why continue doing the same old stuff when you know it's not working that well? If you're not entirely happy with where you're at, are you listening to its message? Your life is giving you valuable feedback - what you're doing is not that effective!
How reliable are your thoughts?
The mind likes to ignore unsatisfactory results and rationalize what you're doing as right. But unsatisfactory results are er... unsatisfactory, part of reality! And when you ignore your reality, no matter how seemingly justified, you are sabotaging yourself.
Whenever you don't know the truth, any choices you make will be less than reliable. The decisions you make about your future will be more effective when you know the truth about your current circumstances!
We all have a self-sabotage mechanism. That means you as well as everybody in your life (including me). But learning to reduce your self-sabotage is way more fulfilling than trying to fix other people. Rather than complaining "they" are not doing it right, look in the mirror and see how you can do better.
How can you do it better? Simple - become more effective! Which means learning to overcome the self-sabotage mechanism.
Whenever you don't know the truth, any choices you make will be less than reliable. The decisions you make about your future will be more effective when you know the truth about your current circumstances!
We all have a self-sabotage mechanism. That means you as well as everybody in your life (including me). But learning to reduce your self-sabotage is way more fulfilling than trying to fix other people. Rather than complaining "they" are not doing it right, look in the mirror and see how you can do better.
How can you do it better? Simple - become more effective! Which means learning to overcome the self-sabotage mechanism.
The Wolves
North American Indians say that every man has two wolves inside him, a black wolf and a white wolf. The black wolf shouts, insists, can be very loud. It wants to control your actions, so will lie, cheat, and otherwise attempt to mislead you. It tries to stop you thinking things through rationally, and will also manipulate your emotions to persuade you to follow its path.
The white wolf is calm, quiet, tells the truth and only suggests. Yet you just know that it makes sense. No, you're not mad when you find you talking, or even arguing with yourself!
But remember one thing when you choose which wolf to follow. All actions have consequences and some consequences are more arduous than others. And some are more desirable!
Neither wolf is wrong, they are both just part of the way you are. But if you want your life to work better, then you need to listen more to the white wolf and rather less to the black one! Both are necessary, as they say:
How much do you self-sabotage? What percent of your time do you listen to the black wolf? And the white wolf? Write down the very first answers you come up with, because the black wolf will try and change them in its favour! They probably suggest you need to take some action!
The white wolf is calm, quiet, tells the truth and only suggests. Yet you just know that it makes sense. No, you're not mad when you find you talking, or even arguing with yourself!
But remember one thing when you choose which wolf to follow. All actions have consequences and some consequences are more arduous than others. And some are more desirable!
Neither wolf is wrong, they are both just part of the way you are. But if you want your life to work better, then you need to listen more to the white wolf and rather less to the black one! Both are necessary, as they say:
It takes the bitter and the sweet
to make life complete!
How much do you self-sabotage? What percent of your time do you listen to the black wolf? And the white wolf? Write down the very first answers you come up with, because the black wolf will try and change them in its favour! They probably suggest you need to take some action!
Why life repeats itself
If you notice that a situation in life comes round again and repeats itself, that tells you you haven't let it go yet. Which is often because you don't fully accept it, you don't know it from every angle!
The good news is that you don't have to let the black wolf run your life. When you know and fully accept the difficult and onerous situations that it creates, then you don't have to experience the self-sabotaging for yourself. This is both simple and possible, although definitely not easy. Yet it is the most effective way to approach life.
So Life Strategies focuses on effectiveness. [Aside: this site uses American spelling, so please let me know if you see any errors, I too make mistakes! :-)] The ReduceStressNow.net site applies these strategies to the common issue of how to reduce stress. To a very large extent, becoming more effective at anything means learning how to overcome the self-sabotage mechanism, the black wolf.
The good news is that you don't have to let the black wolf run your life. When you know and fully accept the difficult and onerous situations that it creates, then you don't have to experience the self-sabotaging for yourself. This is both simple and possible, although definitely not easy. Yet it is the most effective way to approach life.
So Life Strategies focuses on effectiveness. [Aside: this site uses American spelling, so please let me know if you see any errors, I too make mistakes! :-)] The ReduceStressNow.net site applies these strategies to the common issue of how to reduce stress. To a very large extent, becoming more effective at anything means learning how to overcome the self-sabotage mechanism, the black wolf.
Your next step
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If you want to start out slowly, then What You Resist, Persists is for you. This dynamic Special Report introduces the concepts needed to overcome self-sabotage and has exercises so you can start learning how.
If you're stressing right now, and wish to reduce your stress, then this page will give you instant results - guaranteed! Don't miss out, check it out! :-)
If you're serious about becoming more effective, you need to invest both time and energy to find out how. This lighthearted yet exhilarating book explaining self-sabotage will give you the necessary skills:
If you want to start out slowly, then What You Resist, Persists is for you. This dynamic Special Report introduces the concepts needed to overcome self-sabotage and has exercises so you can start learning how.
If you're stressing right now, and wish to reduce your stress, then this page will give you instant results - guaranteed! Don't miss out, check it out! :-)
If you're serious about becoming more effective, you need to invest both time and energy to find out how. This lighthearted yet exhilarating book explaining self-sabotage will give you the necessary skills:
Self-Sabotage? What it is, Why we do it, When we do it, How to Overcome It!
Food for Thought
"It's easier to go down a hill than up,
but the view is much better at the top."
Arnold Bennett (1867 – 1931), editor, philanthropist, novelist,
author of: "How to Live on 24 Hours a Day"