The old adage says that all roads lead to Rome, and it's indeed true. But it's generally not explained that some roads are more direct than others, they'll get you there faster. If you'd rather be there sooner, then you need to stop wasting time following the tortuous route.
What's that I hear you say? "But how? I'm trying to be as effective as I know." Okay, so listen up. Do this instead of what you're doing now, do NOT do anything else. If you do this faithfully, this secret of success will get you whatever you want, to wherever you want to be, no matter where that is:
DO WHAT WORKS for you to achieve whatever you seek to be, do, or have.
Do NOT do what does not work to get you there.
This sounds so simple and you're right, it is indeed simple. It's so simple that you might be tempted to think it's too simple. Why? Because your self-sabotage mechanism will try to give you that thought. Don't buy it, why should something simple not be effective? There's no reason, even though it might try and think up one. If it does manage to give you one, remember that to rationalize is to tell rational lies!
It's up to you to choose what to do. Saying do what works is very different to telling you what to do. It's saying you benefit when you find out what does work for you in practice - and then do it. There's an enormous difference! Yet it's amazing how few follow this simple yet powerful strategy.
Since you're the only person who, hopefully, knows what you want, you are the only person who can decide what does and does not work for you. So other people's advice should be taken under advisement. You're the one who will enjoy or suffer the consequences, so do not follow advice slavishly, ensure you do completely understand it - and then make up your own mind.
Unfortunately the government run education system no longer teaches HOW to think, it regrettably teaches WHAT to think instead. As Winona Corbin insightfully says, the oligarchy want people who are smart enough to accurately repeat what they're told and follow orders, and dumb enough to think this makes them smarter than everyone else.
Another problem is that many mistakenly think that simple means easy. But simple does not mean easy, nor does it mean difficult. Some simple things are easy, and some are very difficult. There's just no correlation, check out the how to stop smoking page.
But does this Actually Work?
Are you not convinced this strategy works, despite its obvious truth? Then focus on the second part not the first. If what you're doing is not working for you, then you need to stop your self sabotage and look at the alternatives. To work harder, to do it some other way, or to do something else.
These options may seem obvious. Yet though most people know they want more peace, love, calm and joy in their lives, how many actually do what works to achieve these results! You know exactly what this secret of success means if you've ever had an argument with a loved one when all you really wanted was to embrace, love and cuddle.
If you don't know what does work and what doesn't, this suggests you haven't yet decided what you really want in life. So invest some major time and effort in finding out what you really want! Without it, you're unlikely to achieve it!
Food for Thought
"If you don't know where you are going, any road will get you there."
- Lewis Carroll1832-1898, Oxford University Lecturer, mathematician, author of Alice in Wonderland
This article was originally published at selfgrowth.com/articles/a-surprisingly-novel-idea-doing-what-works-part-1-in-the-do-what-works-series