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Are They Being Right?

Don't Confuse the Issue with the Facts

"It doesn't matter what you say, I've made up my mind and I'm not going to change it." Such self sabotage is widespread, you've probably seen it often.

Everybody likes to be right, some pretend they were only joking or just winding someone up to avoid facing their self-deception. But when their need to be right is exacerbated by their dislike of change, then you get the hilarious comedian's line: I've made up my mind, stop trying to confuse me with the facts!

You've seen this in other people, but how about you? Whenever you disagree with someone, while refusing to look at their side of the matter and possibly change your life, you're being right. You ignore whatever they say, and insist that your perspective is the only one possible.

When you decline to explore new perspectives, insisting you're right despite all evidence to the contrary, your self sabotage will eventually make you frustrated and powerless, see George Bernard Shaw's awesome quote below!

Do You Know It All?

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Insisting you know it all is a recipe for disaster. Especially when you’ve convinced yourself you know it all - since this demonstrates you've succumbed to your self-sabotage mechanism. Don't just accept its thoughts, enjoy the freedom to learn and discover new things instead. It's the secret of success.

Discover the immense value in a disagreement. Each one gives you the opportunity to explore and improve your context, which determines your effectiveness and your future success.

In any argument, both you and the other person think you're right. And from your different narrow perspective, both of you are right. Yet you disagree - so how can you both be right? What a good question!

Are you Being Right?

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The other's context is different to yours, so of course they think differently. And there's power in a new perspective! But unless you investigate why they think they are right,
how can you benefit from that power and change your life?

Your self-sabotage mechanism likes being right, so it persuades you to ignore the other person's evidence and insists that it is correct. You can sometimes tell when you're being right, if your belief has little rational basis you instead defend your position emotionally. So you ignore the good reasons for your disagreement, and simply insist on your position.

Mind you, you may have the mind-set surprisingly prevalent in our schools, and have been
taught WHAT to think rather than learning HOW to think - do make the effort to check this link out, it's amazing!

You simply believe what you've been told - and then defend it - rather than critically assessing its validity for yourself. Believing others - group think - is an enormous problem nowadays. You may not realize that this is being gullible! See the
previous article in this Self Sabotage series.

Another article you might like is the next in in this series:
Is it Good or Bad? How do You See the Situation?

Food for Thought

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Don't be a "feverish, selfish little clod of ailments and grievances, complaining that the world will not devote itself to making you happy.”

- George Bernard Shaw, 1856-1950, inspirational Irish author and economist, Nobel prize-winner

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